naturalmomma:
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chroniclesofsuperbaby:
mommyslittlesunshine:
babybumpinit:
ayozeebaby:
is that even good for the baby? I am kinda jealous I have only had 2 so far and from the 2 I only have like 4 photos each :/ I think I get one more ultrasound before she is born but that might be all my insurance will cover. If I have to I’m going to ask to get another one done…
I’ve had 4 too :) insurance covered 2. I paid $55 for a gender scan at 16 weeks and got a 4D video. & went back there again and paid $35 for a 4D video or I could’ve just paid $25 to not get the video recording. But the place I go is really cheap compared to what most people charge. The lady is so nice & it’s her personal run business. So she’s not trying to drain money from people, she just likes to get the moms to see their baby :) she includes a cd of like 40-50 pictures too:) plus her scans turn out better than my doctors in my opinion d: but it’s completely safe to get them done ! Enjoy them :) I love getting them done.
Too many ultrasounds can lead to problems so be careful. Here’s some good information for you:
Research shows ultrasound populations have a quadrupled perinatal death rate, increased rates of brain damage, dyslexia, speech delays, epilepsy, and learning difficulties.
- Perinatal death rate quadrupled in ultrasound group. (2,475 woman study by Davies et al., 1993); Midwifery Today.
- Males babies exposed to two or more ultrasounds were 32% more likely to be lefthanded (which is thought to be caused by brain damage). Ultrasound Abstracts.
- Four hours after ultrasound, cell death doubles and rate of cell division drops by 22% in mammals and researchers believe results same in humans. Ultrasound Abstracts.
- Risk of miscarriage significantly increased among women who perform ultrasound more than 20 hours a week. (Taskinen et al., 1990); Midwifery Today.
- Babies who had serious problems and were ultrasounded died more oftenthan non-ultrasounded babies with serious problems. Midwifery Today
- Ultrasounded babies who were growth retarded were three times more likely more likely to be admitted to ICU than non-ultrasounded babies who were growth restricted. Midwifery Today
- Preterm labor more than doubled in ultrasounded women. (Lorenz et al., 1990); Midwifery Today
- Researchers who developed ultrasound admitted possibility of hazard from ultrasound and said that it should never, ever be used on babies under three months. Midwifery Today
- Cells exposed to single dose of ultrasound behave abnormally ten generations after insonation. Midwifery Today
- Even if the above stats don’t give you pause, how about the fact that ultrasound measures 100 decibels in utero – that’s the equivalent of having your infant stand on a subway platform as a train comes roaring in and screeches to a halt New Scientist. As one writer notes, if you’ve ever heard of on opera singer breaking a sheet of glass with her voice, that is an example of what just one slow sound wave can do … but ultrasound uses ultra high frequency sound waves which bombard the child at an extremely high rate of speed. New Scientist.
I had 10plus ultrasounds.
….If ultrasounds were that dangerous, they wouldn’t give so many of them to women with high risk pregnancies.
All this research is true, that’s why I’m not going to get any ultrasounds with this baby unless we really need one. That’s why in a normal pregnancy they only do one or two ultrasounds.
I feel like there are tons of things that are dangerous that the medical world does, but it doesn’t stop them. I appreciate articles and post like this because it gives people the information they need to make informed decisions. That’s what is important, in my opinion, to make an important decision despite what the decision may be.
I agree with natural momma, I think [personally] I will get only the needed and necessary ultrasounds when we get pregnant. We may need a few due to getting AI pregnant, but I don’t see us getting anything more than the needed.
Plus, to be honest, I’m hoping (at least for our first) to not know the gender until birth.
I buy and make baby things when I’m yearning for a child. Yep.
Fact: sometimes I just want to start getting cloth diapers do by the time we actually have kids (be it a year from now or five), we will have a nice stash.
I found a blog about these two women who found their donor on coparentmatch. It’s a good read and great information.
I say that if I sign a contract for next year we start getting ready to have our first child. So that by Summer 2013 we are either trying to conceive or we are conceiving. My want for a child has more than doubled and it’s all I think about lately. We can do it. We won’t have much but we will have enough. We are more than capable. I just want some certainty of when we can start, a time to look forward.
I’m serious. I don’t want to be thirty having my first child. I never wanted that. I want to be 23 or 24 when we have our first child. Our third or forth can come in our thirties but for now, I just want our first.
How do you, as a lesbian, even start? How do you decide? We don’t have the luxury of being hetero and saying that we want to go off birth control and let’s start seeing if your sperm can reach my egg. Hell, I’m even jealous of ‘accidental’ pregnancies. We have to plan. We have to search for a donor. And we have to make sure our bodies are ready for implant.
Being around a birthing mom today just made me want to burst into tears.
It’s hard wanting something so fucking bad. It’s hard not being the only one involved in this decision or else I would find a donor tomorrow. Reckless? Possibility but I’m confident that this child will be well cared for, loved, and provided for. What do you do with a lifetime want that starts to feel like its becoming a need?
Oh goodness, I’m truly an adult now with real adult decisions.
I love the names Lincoln and Paloma.
dearscarlet:
Dear Scarlet,
I’m 24 years old, 24 and a half to be specific. A lot of people my age either have careers or are well on their way to getting to that point. When I got pregnant with you, your dad and I decided that it would be best for me to stay at home as much as possible. Neither one of us liked the idea of daycare. I’ve spent the past 5 years either growing you in my body or raising you. I never want you to feel like I regret this. While I never want you to be financially trapped into a situation, I also want you to hear this loud and clear: They have paychecks. I have you. Maybe things are a little rough around here money-wise, being a single mom wasn’t part of the plan. But, Scar, sometimes you have to say screw the plan. Sometimes you have to jump ship. There are so much more important things than money, and knowing when to throw in the towel is one of them. There is more than one way to live happily ever after. There’s no shame in doing things backwards. Maybe we’ll be doing homework and going to school at the same time, but I promise I will try my absolute hardest to be sure that you never go without. Your dad would also never let that happen. I guess my point here is this: You had a heartbeat before a bank account, so always always tend to your heart first. Never confuse the word can’t with the word haven’t. I love you, and staying home with you for these first four years was absolutely one of the greatest privileges of my life. I’m so thankful for your father for working so that it could be a reality. I’m going to figure out exactly the why the universe needs me and work as hard as I can to fulfill it and provide for you.
She gives me hope that I will be a wonderful mother. I have learned a lot from her posts. They are absolutely inspiring. Most definitely this one.
Elizabeth Stone (via foodinherbelly)
I have a feeling that when we have children my mother in law (one of the best women and mothers I know) will have some issues with us child led weaning, breastfeeding for as long as the baby needs, no circ, baby-wearing, cloth diapering, natural birth with midwife, antics.
Sometimes I bookmark links from scholarly reviewed journals, doctor blog posts, and simply other mothers with loads of knowledge for future references to show her.
I saw a graphic about foreskin not being extra skin and flashed back to an almost debate about circumcision a few weeks ago. I simply stated that our son, if we have one, will not be circ. She disagreed and it almost turned into a debate before I looked back at Dev who shook her head no.
So I changed the subject.
No matter what, though, she will be the best (and only) grandmother.
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If we had a child, I would get this for them.
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This video just makes me unbelievably happy.
I want a son named Ezra. And daughters named Ingrid and Agnes.
Kay Dev?
world-shaker:
May I present to you: The Best Parents, EVER.
I’m afraid that we won’t be able to have kids for a long time (i.e. 30) because neither of us would be able to afford the price of sperm with the pay we have. I highly doubt we would both agree on making a savings for it.
It’s really a sad thought.